Lately, I have been extremely emotional. It is all stemming from reminiscing about my study abroad experience. There is no way I would
ever go back and change my decision to go to New Zealand for a semester, but I am stuck living in the past too much lately when I should be living in the present. I just thought I would share my thoughts on the good and the bad (I think that the good outweighs the bad overall) and see if anyone can relate, or just to inform others on things that are hard about the experience.
It is funny, because I feel like I adjusted fairly quickly when I moved back home...there was a couple of rough times with friends, but overall I think I was fine. Maybe I am a couple of months late...but holy has it hit me hard. I have plenty of theories on why I am a basket-case these days:
-I think about last year this time and I was
SO excited to go...my life is just in a completely different place now. I miss that feeling of anticipation and thoughts of adventure racing through your mind.
-I hardly ever get to skype my friends because of time differences, and I miss them.
-I look at way too many pictures of my time there.
-That was the happiest time of my life because I saw something new everyday. It bothers me that I find the majority of my happiness out of things like that...but I cannot change who I am.
Pardon my venting/pity party, but I guess that is what makes life beautiful! You cannot appreciate the highs if you never experience the lows. As much as I hate to be an emotional person, I guess it is good because I take in that much more. (trying to be positive) (:
Finally, the good and the bad of studying abroad:
Good:
1. It is an independent journey of discovering yourself in new, weird, spontaneous, different situations. You are opened up to an
amazing world full of oddities! People, food, sights, etc. You truly know that we do live in a beautiful world.
2. The friends you make will always be able to share memories, and you bond with so many more people because of your similar situation.
3. School is the lowest priority. Travel and adventure is numero uno.
4. You are free. No constraints of people judging, no expectations of what tomorrow should be like...
5. You get to share your pictures, memories, and stories with family and friends. I even made new friends who read my blog...which is SO cool!
6. You are more reassured of your personal views, opinions, family support, true friendships, and love for travel.
Bad:
1. Since you went by yourself, nobody back home can relate on the level that you want them to. I never want my friends to think that I would rather be back there, but sometimes I do think that.
2. I am going to be completely honest and say that I feel like a better person that I went to study abroad. THIS BUGS ME. I realize that not everyone wants to, but WHY do I think that I have the right to think that they should?! I do know that I am not a better person than anyone else, but a little part of me believes that I am. That is a bad thing in my book. I just hope that it doesn't come across...but I think it might.
3. The missing never stops. It is kind of like an ex you can never get over...something always reminds me of my experience there. Aka, everytime I see an airplane, hear a song that my friends loved, see something on facebook. Never fails to get me teary-eyed and go into a bout of 'WAH, poor me'!!
4. School can be the biggest drag. This semester, I started off wonderfully passionate. As of late, I have been questioning what I am going for, and at times HATING school.
5. You think about the past instead of living in the present. This correlates with #3...but yeah. I find myself daydreaming about last year (yikes, it has already been 7 months) wayyy too often. While reminiscing is not a bad thing, there is a limit to how much is good for you. I passed that limit
days ago. I do not know how to stop this wallowing, but I guess writing about something that had been bugging me is always comforting.
So, if you even made it this far down...I apologize for my ranting and feeling sorry for myself. I am happy I went...but unhappy that I am just now feeling the hardships of studying abroad. I have never had this strong of a withdrawal symptom in my time back as right now and it is hard to pinpoint was triggered it.
Thanks for reading, and I honestly would love your thoughts, advice, opinions, etc!